the wedding epiphany
I had this idea the other day and was explaining it to a friend of mine...
people fly out to a wedding, they arrive the day of or before, go to the church, go to the reception and then go away. when it is your cousing, you smile and wave and eat your chicken, dance with grandpa and laugh with your aunts. when it is a friend that you see all the time you smile and wave and eat your chicken and dance with a friend or just sit at the table and laugh. when it is a friend you don't see often, you want to visit and well, there really just isn't the time for that, it isn't the place to kick back with the newly wedded bride and share a bottle of wine and chat about rome or whatever
this friend having a wedding thing (yes, this is actually my first friend to get married) is just kind of annoying to drop a lot of cash to fly out, rent a car and stuff when i'll be smiling and waving and eating my chicken. i'm already committed and fortunately have other 'perks' to flying out to cali but i just feel that it would mean more for me to send a gift, save them money on one less belly at the reception and visit a month or two after the blessed event when i can buy them dinner.
if i get married i think i'll elope, take a cruise and then have a party in NYC, a party in Chicago, a luncheon in sacramento and a pub crawl in SF, maybe a layover in LA and meet folks for drinks in Encounters, the bar at the airport that isn't actually part of the airport. i don't know, i just want people to be happy, comfortable, not worried about budgets - you know, celebrating!
of course, if i get married, i will have to share this decision with someone else but i think eloping is a great great plan
years ago my father's joke was that he'd buy me a ladder ...
people fly out to a wedding, they arrive the day of or before, go to the church, go to the reception and then go away. when it is your cousing, you smile and wave and eat your chicken, dance with grandpa and laugh with your aunts. when it is a friend that you see all the time you smile and wave and eat your chicken and dance with a friend or just sit at the table and laugh. when it is a friend you don't see often, you want to visit and well, there really just isn't the time for that, it isn't the place to kick back with the newly wedded bride and share a bottle of wine and chat about rome or whatever
this friend having a wedding thing (yes, this is actually my first friend to get married) is just kind of annoying to drop a lot of cash to fly out, rent a car and stuff when i'll be smiling and waving and eating my chicken. i'm already committed and fortunately have other 'perks' to flying out to cali but i just feel that it would mean more for me to send a gift, save them money on one less belly at the reception and visit a month or two after the blessed event when i can buy them dinner.
if i get married i think i'll elope, take a cruise and then have a party in NYC, a party in Chicago, a luncheon in sacramento and a pub crawl in SF, maybe a layover in LA and meet folks for drinks in Encounters, the bar at the airport that isn't actually part of the airport. i don't know, i just want people to be happy, comfortable, not worried about budgets - you know, celebrating!
of course, if i get married, i will have to share this decision with someone else but i think eloping is a great great plan
years ago my father's joke was that he'd buy me a ladder ...