I've Got Sex On My Mind.
Today while enjoying the beautiful weather that Florida has finally provided me I came across an article that truly made my wheels begin to turn. While flipping through the pages of Bitchfest (an anthology that chronicles the most influential articles in one of the most influential feminist magazines) I came across Heather Seggel’s spring 1998 article entitled I Heard It through the Loveline: And Misinformation Just Might Make Me Lose My Mind. At first, I thought this article was going to be dry and talking about the missed connotation of true love, but alas I was wrong. Seggel discusses the 90’s radio show based out of Los Angles which featured comedian Adam Carolla and Dr. Drew Pinsky (and we all know that he has his own fame now) in which the two would discuss issues regarding sex, love, relationship and sometimes drugs in which young adults would call in during the late night hours. Most of the time the callers would be mainly male and discussing heterosexual sex in which they could both make light of the matter, but when any sign of deviance was arisen, well then both of them would tense and then avoid the situation of any light.
One in particular made me concerned was when a young man called in discussing that his partner would sleepwalk and how he was quite worried that he was going to harm himself. All was well until the two hosts realized that his partner was actually a man. There were no lighter hearted penis jokes, but instead they just decided to try to make the situation go away so that they could cut to a commercial break and who knows what would have been laid off air. But really? Has the United States not been recognized as one of the progressive countries in the world and at the first sign of deviating from the norm we decide that we cannot handle the situation and write them off? Is homophobia among males a concern that could be affect gay and lesbian individuals from receiving the right to get married? Does this only show that there is more to meet the eyes? I mean a trained psychologist could not handle the situation in a mature manner. Do we need to have special training on how to deal with situations that might deviant from the norm? Does sex really mean this much?
But that was not the most disturbing story that had came to my attention. The next one struck a chord with me and it is because it had to deal with my girls. A young woman had called in to ask if her dreams about rape fantasies were something she could be concerned about. Well, if we could not handle two men sleeping in the same bed then we definitely could not handle that fact that a young female would have rape fantasies. And instead of making the young woman aware, that this is completely normal and if you are comfortable enough then you should live out your fantasy instead of making her feel like a freak. I mean hey even I would walk right up to her and be like, I have some strange fantasies and I am totally ok to admit to you that I would love to live them out. I mean she had the balls to admit that she was even having these fantasies, and in a world where rape culture is present, this must have been an incredibly complicated subject. But I am proud of her and I hope that someone told her that if you are comfortable enough then you should go out and do it.
Although I was not done about reading about the oppression that women have faced with their sexual desires. In another article entitled In Re-Mission: Why Does Redbook Want to Keep Us On Our Backs? By Amy Harter written in Spring 1997 which was introducing some more sex (we are surprised that I was constantly masturbating with how much I read about sex today) and how the missionary position is that best way for a married woman to have sex. Are you fucking kidding me? The best was to have sex is for me to be on bottom and have him pound into me. I mean I love being in control more than anyone else and now the only way to please my husband is for him to be on top. And apparently the number one reason you should have sex on your back? Well apparently it is the only way that men want to see your body or maybe the way you want to perceive your own body. Yes, I love when my boobs look flat when I am lying on my back? Maybe I like my jiggle. Should I be self conscious? Is this what glamour magazines are trying to tell us? Please be self conscious so you can spend more money on our magazine which shows you how to improve yourself and spend more money. Is consumerism going to control our sex lives? Women step up and are proud to fuck.
BTW. Pick up Bitchfest: Ten Years of Cultural Criticism from the Pages of Bitch Magazine Edited by Lisa Jervis & Andi Zeisler
One in particular made me concerned was when a young man called in discussing that his partner would sleepwalk and how he was quite worried that he was going to harm himself. All was well until the two hosts realized that his partner was actually a man. There were no lighter hearted penis jokes, but instead they just decided to try to make the situation go away so that they could cut to a commercial break and who knows what would have been laid off air. But really? Has the United States not been recognized as one of the progressive countries in the world and at the first sign of deviating from the norm we decide that we cannot handle the situation and write them off? Is homophobia among males a concern that could be affect gay and lesbian individuals from receiving the right to get married? Does this only show that there is more to meet the eyes? I mean a trained psychologist could not handle the situation in a mature manner. Do we need to have special training on how to deal with situations that might deviant from the norm? Does sex really mean this much?
But that was not the most disturbing story that had came to my attention. The next one struck a chord with me and it is because it had to deal with my girls. A young woman had called in to ask if her dreams about rape fantasies were something she could be concerned about. Well, if we could not handle two men sleeping in the same bed then we definitely could not handle that fact that a young female would have rape fantasies. And instead of making the young woman aware, that this is completely normal and if you are comfortable enough then you should live out your fantasy instead of making her feel like a freak. I mean hey even I would walk right up to her and be like, I have some strange fantasies and I am totally ok to admit to you that I would love to live them out. I mean she had the balls to admit that she was even having these fantasies, and in a world where rape culture is present, this must have been an incredibly complicated subject. But I am proud of her and I hope that someone told her that if you are comfortable enough then you should go out and do it.
Although I was not done about reading about the oppression that women have faced with their sexual desires. In another article entitled In Re-Mission: Why Does Redbook Want to Keep Us On Our Backs? By Amy Harter written in Spring 1997 which was introducing some more sex (we are surprised that I was constantly masturbating with how much I read about sex today) and how the missionary position is that best way for a married woman to have sex. Are you fucking kidding me? The best was to have sex is for me to be on bottom and have him pound into me. I mean I love being in control more than anyone else and now the only way to please my husband is for him to be on top. And apparently the number one reason you should have sex on your back? Well apparently it is the only way that men want to see your body or maybe the way you want to perceive your own body. Yes, I love when my boobs look flat when I am lying on my back? Maybe I like my jiggle. Should I be self conscious? Is this what glamour magazines are trying to tell us? Please be self conscious so you can spend more money on our magazine which shows you how to improve yourself and spend more money. Is consumerism going to control our sex lives? Women step up and are proud to fuck.
BTW. Pick up Bitchfest: Ten Years of Cultural Criticism from the Pages of Bitch Magazine Edited by Lisa Jervis & Andi Zeisler