can i graduate?

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it's a wonder i get out of bed anymore. there is nothing exciting about graduating, at least for me. everyone at emory is going on to do great, ambitious things. my mom is jumping down my throat about what we are going to do about insurance and jobs. my best friend and boyfriend is moving to maryland on monday. i hate my school more and more every

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[justaugaguy1123]

Hey Mallory! My ex-girlfriend was going through a lot of the same feelings when she was graduating college last year. Of course I was jerk, because I was too immature to understand any of what she was feeling. I know a little better know.

Personally, I think that taking a year off wouldn't necessarily be the worst thing ever for you. You could take time to think about if and where you really want to go to graduate school instead of just going to UGA (which is good, but I'm sure you'd have some reservations).

It's also probably overwhelming cause everyone's graduating and doing a million different things. It's got to feel so crazy because it's a bigger period of transition than high school for real.

One of my awesome friends Amanda, took a year off and spent half of the year traveling to see friends (she saved up money from the summers before) and then spent half of a year getting a bar tending lincense and working in a bar in Athens (which is hilarious...she never seemed like the type).

Anyways, she's now either going to grad school to become an ESOL teacher or do some teach for America thing. She tells me she's glad she had the time off though. She just needed to breathe and sort her head.

So those are my two cents on that.

Also I don't know if you got Teach for America or whatnot, but there's tons of stuff you could do if you didn't that are similiar. You could just substitute teach for a month or come to Athens and work for the writing center (trust me...you'd get it).

If you came to Athens you'd also have Kendra, Adam, Ashley, Marshall, and me, and other people I don't know who may still be around. And Athens is a great low key place if you aren't ready to deal with the real world yet to just work/live for a year.

There's also cheap apartments in Athens, I'm sure the same is true about Kenesaw, if you and Caitilin could find a third person. It's also a nice place if you have a car. It's not too far from anywhere except GA Southern and Valdosta, but come on, nothing is close to those places.

I'm sorry the guy is going to Maryland, but you know what...the more I think about it the more I realize it's better to not rush relationships. Pursue what you want to do with your live and love will come. That's hard for any of us to realize. Like if I hadn't been a douche to Brianna or pushed so hard to get Melissa to do things, both relationships would have ended (Melissa wanted to go to Med school somewhere else and Brianna graduated school and is living with her family who I can't tolerate).

Anyways, I'm just letting you know if you need another person to just talk to and shoot crap with about your future I'm here for you buddy. I changed my major 5 times, had a druggie phase, and damn I even used to smoke. I miss it and I didn't even really get addicted. I can't tell you how many times when I have a bad day how good a cigarette would feel. So I can sympathize when you go through times where you aren't smoking as much or what not.

Well, my point is and your sister is sort of saying this too...you kicked butt in college while going through two hectic relationships and not having the best family to back you (I'm so lucky to have to parents who would kill themselves if it'd mean I'd get married and get a 4.0 GPA).

I think you definitely can afford to take a year off. You'd only then be 23 and most people take 5 years before they had their undergraduate degree and head on straight. And knowing you, you'd breeze through grad school when or if you do decide to go.

Besides that all I can say is just reach out to your girl friends or guy friends who are uber sensitive and work like that. They're invaluable. Also try exercising or taking up a new hobby. Seriously, do piano or something. Or get involved in some cause of some sort. It's liberating.

I know I wrote a ton. I just have had some many times where I've felt like that in my life, so I had to write you.

Take care buddy. You know you've always got a friend in me.

-Stephen