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Lesson learned: criticizing Melissa's behavior bad, sexism and sizeism good.
The back story: Melissa McEwen made a blog post decrying the sexism she has experienced in the "paleo community", sexism directed at her personally. I left a very poor comment (which I freely admit in the comments on my blog: I was tired and run-down and I just shouldn't have commented at all in that state) and she responded, then deleted the entire thread before I could respond to her comment.
Then she found my blog (which I didn't link to on her site, so that took effort heh) and left a comment in which she made untrue accusations toward me and pulled out the typical white-person trope of how much it hurt her feelings that I pointed out the racism in her statements, that it hurt her more than all the harassment she had experienced from paleo guys. (Because you know, it hurts white people really bad when we point out their racism, way more than their racism hurts us, so we shouldn't do that.) Oh and it hurt her especially because she thinks we are of a similar ethnic background, so she expects me to be her ally (yes, folks: she made this statement in the same comment in which she argues that she has no racism. The mind boggles.)
I tried to be kind, but I am also really annoyed by her double standard and false accusations and EVEN MORE RACISM. It makes me tired. She deleted my comment because it "made her unhappy" but all the misogynist and sizeist comments that crop up there every day, those are okay. So I am posting this here because this is my personal place where I can express annoyance; I would rather that serious discussion go on the comments to that post, where it might do some good
The back story: Melissa McEwen made a blog post decrying the sexism she has experienced in the "paleo community", sexism directed at her personally. I left a very poor comment (which I freely admit in the comments on my blog: I was tired and run-down and I just shouldn't have commented at all in that state) and she responded, then deleted the entire thread before I could respond to her comment.
Then she found my blog (which I didn't link to on her site, so that took effort heh) and left a comment in which she made untrue accusations toward me and pulled out the typical white-person trope of how much it hurt her feelings that I pointed out the racism in her statements, that it hurt her more than all the harassment she had experienced from paleo guys. (Because you know, it hurts white people really bad when we point out their racism, way more than their racism hurts us, so we shouldn't do that.) Oh and it hurt her especially because she thinks we are of a similar ethnic background, so she expects me to be her ally (yes, folks: she made this statement in the same comment in which she argues that she has no racism. The mind boggles.)
I tried to be kind, but I am also really annoyed by her double standard and false accusations and EVEN MORE RACISM. It makes me tired. She deleted my comment because it "made her unhappy" but all the misogynist and sizeist comments that crop up there every day, those are okay. So I am posting this here because this is my personal place where I can express annoyance; I would rather that serious discussion go on the comments to that post, where it might do some good